Praise the Lord!
Brethren, marriage is a good thing.
Hallelujah!?
If you"re single here, you should desire to be married!
However your desire should not be canal! It is a spirtual obligation!.
Praise God?!.
The Bible says that a woman is a help meet to the man, so if you"re a lady here and you"re a help meet to nobody, you"re wrong! You hear me? You are not fulfilling the scripture.
And if you're a man here, God said it was not Good for man to be alone. So if you are alone, you are wrong!
The congregation was a pack of enthusiastic Brothers and sisters. Pastor's preaching got them all excited as they were responding to every "praise the Lord" and "Hallelujah" he called out.
Some people were overly excited they would have to "Whistle, clap their hands, wave their handkerchiefs or jump up, all these just to respond.
Some people were overly excited they would have to "Whistle, clap their hands, wave their handkerchiefs or jump up, all these just to respond.
Picture me at one corner, somewhere at the back. Sitting in the middle of empty chairs. Actually i was in front, but the speaker was directly infront of me so i moved back, which was not as packed as the front.
So yeah, there i was.
Sitting motionless.
My face was expressionless too.
No one could read my mind, i made sure of that.
Because in my mind, i was just as excited as the others. The Message was too clear and perfect i would be the Witch to not get excited.
But i didnt want to just show it.
It was hard trying to hide my feelings though. My God! So hard, because that's not even me. But i tried, i tried.
So yeah, there i was.
Sitting motionless.
My face was expressionless too.
No one could read my mind, i made sure of that.
Because in my mind, i was just as excited as the others. The Message was too clear and perfect i would be the Witch to not get excited.
But i didnt want to just show it.
It was hard trying to hide my feelings though. My God! So hard, because that's not even me. But i tried, i tried.
However, i laughed when pastor says something funny, i smiled when necessary.. I used my phone to take down notes! (I forgot my word note all because i was rushing). It wasn't as if i was just mean all through the message. Before you start judging.
But here's the thing.
I"m not ready for this marriage thingy.
I know it might sound weird or like a stupid joke. But again dont judge me.
I"m not ready for this marriage thingy.
I know it might sound weird or like a stupid joke. But again dont judge me.
Honestly, i dont know why i"m not ready.
Maybe i"m just scared.
Scared of the wrong person, wrong time.. Wrong everything! You know.
I dont want to make mistakes.. Costly mistakes. Which is why "i jus dey my lane."
Maybe i"m just scared.
Scared of the wrong person, wrong time.. Wrong everything! You know.
I dont want to make mistakes.. Costly mistakes. Which is why "i jus dey my lane."
So even though i was feeling the message, i just didnt want to give the men the impression that i"m single and i badly need to get married!. Because thats not what it is!
I preferred to be in my corner. Not letting anyboody know if i was really single or engaged.
I preferred to be in my corner. Not letting anyboody know if i was really single or engaged.
After the message, there was an alter call for the Single Ladies and gents..
- "If you're single here and you have a desire to marry, i want you to come join me at the alter let me pray for you".
As he spoke, people made their ways to alter, some speedily, some slowly...
Me at my corner just sat down tight... I was more concerened at Why Majority of the people leaving their seats where Ladies!
I mean, where are the men to marry them?!
Does it mean that the gentlmen do not desire to marrry??
I mean, where are the men to marry them?!
Does it mean that the gentlmen do not desire to marrry??
"Join me, join me. If you have a daughter or sister you also want to stand in for, you can also join us at the alter. Today, marriage doors will be opened in Jesus name!!
I still didnt move.
Half of the seats in church got literally empty..
One man infront of me, kept on looking back. I knew he was looking at me, trying to fish out my 3rd finger if i had a ring on.
I"m sure he was wondering what this prettty lady who is of a "wifeable charisma and qualities" and probably single, is still doing at her seat.
Half of the seats in church got literally empty..
One man infront of me, kept on looking back. I knew he was looking at me, trying to fish out my 3rd finger if i had a ring on.
I"m sure he was wondering what this prettty lady who is of a "wifeable charisma and qualities" and probably single, is still doing at her seat.
At this point, i wished i had a ring, i would have put it right where he supposed!
I hid my left hand with my handkerchief and pretended i didnt know what was going on..
I hid my left hand with my handkerchief and pretended i didnt know what was going on..
After the service.
As i stood up. He finally caught a glimpse of my left hand..
I had forgotten, i would have kept on hiding it.
Then our eyes met, i smiled and greeted him and he responded with a smile too...
As i stood up. He finally caught a glimpse of my left hand..
I had forgotten, i would have kept on hiding it.
Then our eyes met, i smiled and greeted him and he responded with a smile too...
As i walked home, i remembered how i always dodge sitting with my mum because she hasnt yet understood why i dont go for "Marriage Alter calls.
She thinks i"m a big joke for that. LOL!
She keeps asking me what will happen if someone comes for my hand in mariage.
(I"ll decline i guess)
Well,
She thinks i"m a big joke for that. LOL!
She keeps asking me what will happen if someone comes for my hand in mariage.
(I"ll decline i guess)
Well,
I think marriage will happen when it will happen. Abi?
I just dont have the Desire yet.
Who knows where i can buy the desire?
I just dont have the Desire yet.
Who knows where i can buy the desire?
Reminds of Chimamanda Adichie's article where she wrote how the so called "desire" to marry is ridiculously unbalanced! Girls are trained to want it while the guys.....well(insert your own words/thoughts). Too bad, the society has made the foundation of such institution very shaky and we all know what happens when the foundation of a thing is rotten.
ReplyDeleteWhen the girl child is born, the elders' prayers are like- She will grow into a beautiful woman, iseee! She will bring us a rich handsome young man for a husband, iseeee! Ogo bu chi onye, iseee!...
The boy child is born- Oh he will grow into a handsome young man, iseee! He will work hard and build us tall buildings, iseeee! God will bless his hustles and he will not forget us, iseee!
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very informative Chi!! Thanks for always shedding more light on posts through your comments.
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